The sun came out for the first time in I-have-no-longer-any-idea-how-many days.

We went for a walk “to say hello to the forest.”

First, we said hello to the trees. Then, we said hello to the geese. It worries me that the geese stayed for winter. How will they survive once the snow finally truly comes and settles? And what about spring? How will we know it’s spring without the long plaintive songs of returning flocks of geese?

At last, we said hello to the forest. It looked naked and shy in this snowless weather.

There were so many people walking. On the way back we passed the construction site, where a few months ago they’d cut trees and destroyed a part of a biking lane to build luxury townhouses. I remember seeing the devastation for the first site, seething with a feeling of loss and helpless rage, calling it to myself terra nullius. Today the construction site was eerily quiet. Are they sleeping, mama? Yes, dear, even capitalism sleeps sometimes.

This is why January 1 is my favourite day. Everything is closed and everyone is walking outside with no other purpose than the walk itself. There are no incoming emails, not even commercial offers. The only day when the capitalism sleeps and I feel myself breathing a little easier.

We came back home, made a hearty meal and played the rest of the day.

And just like this he’s gone. The cat with whom I shared 14 years of my life, with whom I crossed an ocean, with whom I moved from country to country, from one house to the other to the one that finally felt like home. The cat who had a million of little annoying habits, who always wanted something, who was always somewhere nearby, the cat who owned us more than we owned him. Just like this he’s gone and I am mad at him, because he left at such a dreadful moment, he left into a cold October mist, he left when there are no good news to cheer me. He left without giving me a chance to say good-bye, without telling me he’s leaving. He just went outside and never came back. And now I’m looking at the glass door, trying to make out his black shape and white collar in the dark, where there is just emptiness. His name is Echo and he left without a trace after fourteen years and with all the bad things that happened this autumn, this is almost the worst.

But the prophecies, they will cease,

The tongues, they will fall silent,

The knowledge, it will pass away,

But these three will remain:

The quiet delight of a long weekend of doing nothing

in the space between the end of Spring and the beginning of Summer,

The wonder of blowing on the white feathery head of a ripe dandelion

and watching its parachutes float and hover in the space between grass and sky,

And the long golden rays of the sun,

setting down somewhere behind the rooftops of the low-rises on Clairevue Boulevard

in the space between day and evening.

But the greatest of these is love.

The end of Winter is synonymous with grief. The snow melts and the cracks in the earth and the asphalt shine through its thin layer. I feel constant sadness, the brokenness of the world around me. Not around, I correct myself, as now more than ever I feel adrift in the general brokenness. The cracks shining through the thin layer of snow, of civilization, are identical to the ones in my heart. The end of Winter feels like a church with perfect acoustics: every personal pain and longing is mirrored and amplified through the millions pain points scattered across the universe. I am just one of these pain points, but without me the chain of transmission may be broken. With me, the chain becomes a complete circle. In the end of Winter, I refuse to look forward towards brighter and warmer days. I refuse to hurry towards the beginning, but choose to stay here, in the stage of dying, melting away, crumbling, and ending. There is a strange comfort of feeling broken in a broken world.

Putting my younger child to bed may take anywhere between forty minutes and two hours. That’s plenty of time for self-reflection. Today was a warm day, for February. I took a walk around lunchtime, went all the way to the forest. On my way, I noticed that the clouds were pink. I listened to a good webinar. The sunset tonight was even prettier than the lunchtime clouds, I had some good conversations and children ate their salad without fussing. It was a good day. Then I remember that for a couple of families in Ste-Rose, a small town north of Montreal, today was the last day they hugged their children. Their children were murdered by a public transit driver who slammed his bus into a daycare, intentionally. I pray that one day these parents find some form of healing, but they will never have a luxury to forget what happened on February 8. I remember parents, children, family members, neighbours pulling at the rubble in a desperate effort to save their loved ones after the earthquake. I remember about the war, because I remember about it every day of my life.

So, how pretty was my sunset? Can one have a good day? Has one a right to “live, laugh, love” in a desperately broken world? Am I being insensitive? Or celebrating my own survival, the fact that the worse only happens to others? I am grasping at straws and then I find a quote by Arundhati Roy that expresses perfectly how I want to show up in this world. It doesn’t make anything better, but I write it down.

“To love. To be loved. To never forget your own insignificance. To never get used to the unspeakable violence and the vulgar disparity of life around you. To seek joy in the saddest places. To pursue beauty to its lair. To never simplify what is complicated or complicate what is simple. To respect strength, never power. Above all, to watch. To try and understand. To never look away. And never, never to forget.” 
― Arundhati Roy, The Cost of Living

Today

marked eleven months of the war

that twelve months ago, I would not have imagined.

I am sitting on the fifteenth floor of a corporate high-rise,

The kind with wooden panels, soft lights, high-speed elevators and bergamot-smelling hand cream in a gender-neutral bathroom,

And listening to a story of hunting a deer

I am looking out of a wall-sized window on the imperfect symmetry of glass, metal, concrete and smoke

I am thinking that it used to be a forest.

The last day of the two and a half years of my life

(the same two and a half years that may still cost me months of therapy)

(the two and a half years when I met my best friends)

(the two and half years when I became a better person, sometimes because, sometimes despite of all that happened)

wasn’t at all eventful

except this one moment, when, as I was walking through the storm

I realized that the clock in my head stopped ticking.

Earlier, I didn’t even realize the clock was there

I didn’t hear it

or maybe I thought it was a sound of my own heartbeat.

That clock that for two and a half years kept telling me

do more, work harder, meet your deadlines,

never be late, never be sick, never be weak,

make sure you are better than everyone else,

because nobody would want an average person with your accent.

Well, guess what? On the last day of the two and a half years of my life

the people who used to praise me for working hard, meeting my deadlines,

being better than everyone else, weren’t even there to say good-bye.

But the ones who were

who were there for me all the time, didn’t say

thank you for being such an asset to our capitalist system

instead, they said

you have no idea how much we love you.

The Saulteaux creation story says

That time and space were made as a part of the physical world

This means

That time has nothing

On your spirit

This means

That you are not obliged to say:

After this pain I will learn to be happy

Or, at least, I will remember how to smile. 

If time does not exist

For the spirit

There is no after, nor is there before

Everything is forever

This pain

This joy

The moment you read that someone you didn’t know was killed near Bakhmut

Someone younger than you

Someone who was, who isn’t, who won’t be

The moment someone tells you that hemoglobin and chlorophyll cells

Have identical structure

The same four elements arranged in circle around a central atom

Proving that there is connection between us and everything else

And your brain explodes with this new unfathomable knowledge

This joy

This pain

Everything all at once

Arranged in circle.