The day and especially the evening tasted like the beginning of summer. It had the spaciousness, the abundance of light, the balance between the green and the blue, the hustle of summer activities and the lazy understanding that we have all the time in the world. The nights are still too fresh to stay outside, but I wonder if the fireflies already light the garden.

I am listening to the amazing podcast conversation with Vanessa Andreotti, which makes me rethink the meaning of connectedness in the sense that we can’t just choose to feel connected to the beautiful, the natural, the green and pristine. If we want to really understand the mess we’re in, we need to acknowledge our connection to the ugly, industrial and extractive.

So, as I was walking tonight in the high grasses under the electricity lines, listening to their buzzing, I stopped to reckon with the fact that just as I am dependent on the oxygen breathed out by the beloved trees, I am dependent on these ugly metal giants for my everyday needs, including writing this blog. I may dissociate myself and pretend that they are someone else’s problem, but the truth is we are connected.

The day was extremely ordinary, but the evening was wonderful.

First, we went to McDonalds. I love McDonalds in our town, it reminds me of McDonalds at home, where even fast food restaurants are beautiful and surrounded by extraordinary architecture. The McDonalds in our town is very prime and tidy and it seats at the main intersection, opposite the town square with a fountain, flower beds and the market.

Then I went for a long walk in the forest and it was pure bliss. I saw white-tailed deer, a baby rabbit and a fas racoon and heard the birds I’d never heard before: Red-eyed Vireo, Indigo Bunting, American Redstart and Great Crested Flycatcher. Although I love the forest in every season, I have to admit that it’s generosity and fullness in the early summer almost makes me cry.

I went to a book store to buy a gift for a child’s birthday and walked out with some Legos and a book on Somacultural liberation. I could pretend it was a coincidence, except that of course I chose a book store with a small toy section to do my shopping and an English-language bookstore at that and once I had my toy, I didn’t walk out of the door, or stopped by a fiction section, no, I went straight to the Community and Culture and to Indigenous voices shelf.

So, me walking out of that store with a new book was pure determinism, a product of lifelong cultural conditioning. Back when I was a smart, shy, chubby, fat-shamed child living in a tiny claustrophobic community of soviet military families in Eastern Germany, my favourite place was a small bookstore adjacent to the only grocery store in our compound. The store would receive the new releases every two weeks – I knew the schedule by heart – still, I would come there almost every day, browsing fiction (children’s novels) and non-fiction (books about animals). The shop attendants knew me. Sometimes, they would put a copy of a particularly popular book aside to give me time to ask my parents for extra funds for a new purchase. I still remember a particularly devastating week in the second (or third?) grade, when I first got a 2 (D) on some subject, followed by a 3 (C) in math. That same week the bookstore received not one, but two new children’s novels that I really wanted, but I after the abysmal school performance, I just couldn’t ask my parents for new books. I felt that I didn’t deserve them.

I returned to the book store every day, looking at the two books, dreaming about them. Finally, after a week or more of this torture, I mastered the courage and asked my mother if I could buy the books. To my surprise, she said yes. She didn’t believe that poor academic performance, that was so untypical for me, could be cure by restricting my access to reading. So, I flew to the bookstore with money in my hand, feeling very much rehabilitated. To my dismay, one of the coveted books was already sold out. I came to late! I don’t remember if I cried. I might have, because the shop attendants noticed my distress and asked me about it. When I told them, one woman said to another: I believe we still have two copies in storage. Give one to the girl, she’s hanging around here all the time. I still remember that moment of my life with pure gratitude: to my mother, to the shop attendant, to life that has a way of erasing our woes that seem so devastating at the time.

So, almost forty years later, I still go to the bookshops to be around books. My choice of reading has gotten bigger and more sophisticated and the time I can give to reading has shrunk, but I feel the pull of a bookstore just as much as when I was eight. So, the compulsive book purchase was predetermined, but the actual title of the book was pure accident. I had never heard about the book or its author. It was an only copy, casually tucked between more popular titles. When I saw the words somatic, cultural and liberation, I knew I had to know. This morning, when I pulled the book out of my backpack I realized that my birthday is coming up on Sunday and I decided: let it be my gift to myself. Not the actual book, or rather not only the book, but learning how to liberate myself through my body.

One of the ways I am trying to keep my sanity now is by walking. Preferably during the time when the daylight is slowly fading into dusk and the traffic noise recedes, giving place to the chorus of insects and birds.
I am trying to take a single picture during every walk, to remind myself that time is passing and that despite everything I am alive on the living earth.

The picture I took yesterday somehow became a solace, so I thought I’d share it. Maybe, you will feel it too: the soft, earthy smell of rotting wood and of the fungus decomposing it, the softness of soil after two days of heavy rains, and the warmth of the air. And this beautiful, intricate web woven over the dark cavity of the dying tree.

The tree is dying, but it is not dead. Instead, it is slowly transforming, becoming a different thing, a multitude of different things: a home, a shelter, a food, a soil. The tree is teaching me that grieving and loving and living are all pretty much the same thing. It teaches me that “we came from dust and we shall return to dust” is not a threat, but a promise. It teaches me that we make so much more sense and more senses in connection with other beings.

I am witnessing a tiny moment of its decay and it is witnessing a moment of my awakening. I am marvelling at the fact that we are made of the same stuff, but to a vastly different result. It seems that it has all the answers, whereas I have none. It seems so much more solid, balanced, reliable, useful even in its death, while my default operation mode these days is helplessness.

Yet, I have to trust myself that I also somehow play a role in the universe. I am a home to billions of tiny organisms, I am a part of cultural survival and maybe even, if I try very very hard, I can be someone’s momentary comfort.

When I spoke to my mom this weekend, she said to keep low profile. she said, don’t show people that you’re angry, don’t disagree. Just keep low profile and look for opportunities. Check out job offers, but don’t tell anybody. Renew passports, one never knows. Be smart. Stop telling people what you think and feel. One never knows.

Instead, I wrote a poem and posted it on bloody LinkedIn. Because it felt right. I fully expect it to blow in my face.

I am still amazed at how a woman so wise and resilient as my mother managed to rise a child so devoid of instinct of self-preservation.

When we were sleeping, or maybe when we were watching Netflix at the end of a hot weekend, sipping cold white wine, they dropped 2,000 pounds of explosives on a jumble of refugee tents, burning women, children, babies, elderly, clothes, bodies, possessions, the remains of our humanity have gone up in smoke in a so-called safe zone in Rafah. I cannot think of anything but that.

Today was the first day I walked without pain. It felt so good. To fall into a softer, slower rhythm, to feel at peace with my body, to contemplate healing. It also happened to be the first day I wasn’t working or thinking of work in the part two or three weeks. A coincidence? The day felt longer, fuller, lighter, as if the time was wrapping around me in a comforting embrace. I wouldn’t dare to try running for another couple of weeks and am afraid to push my limits into a long walk, so I took my bike for a ride around the lakes of Mont-Bruno.

I do not know how I am going to survive today.

It is barely 8am and I am already crying. I am watching a groundhog trying to cross the road, but the traffic is too dense and the energy of it feels violent and uncaring. I scream to her (silently, in my head) don’t! You won’t make it. It seems that she hears me and retreats, but then comes back to her crossing point. Don’t don’t don’t don’t. I feel related to her. I feel related to the dying world. To the critters suffocated by the asphalt. To the creatures not finding their home that’s been turned into condominiums. I feel that sadness is going to crush me.

Worst of all, I do not know how to spend my day around people who don’t feel sadness, who don’t understand it. I’m bad at putting on armour, I’m good at vulnerability, but there are days when vulnerability is the worst possible choice. If there is a third option, I need to find it. What can you be, if you can’t afford to be vulnerable and don’t have the privilege of emotional detachment ?

For now, I am trying to breathe. Breathing is good. Inhale on four, hold on four, exhale on four, hold on four, repeat. The tears are inside me, very close to the surface. I am back again in that same damn place, feeling too much, saying nothing.

The day of heavy heat ends with thunder. I feel heavy too, tired, disappointed with the conversations that don’t go far enough, with relationships that don’t seem to work. I am waiting for rain. I am thinking of adrienne marée brown’s « adapt to pleasure » Sometimes pleasure is the hardest to find.

It’s here. I hear the heavy drops falling and the rumble. It’ll be alright.

There is a tenderness about the city in the morning after a long weekend. There is slowness. The air is dusty and sweet, the streets are emptier than usual. I am thankful to be outside of my usual routine, to take a little time for a coffee in a company of strangers. I feel good about my upcoming day, just the fact to have a day to look forward to. I am wearing a dress, something I rarely do. I like the feeling of this morning. Warm, of but not yet hot, summer, but not quite.

My leg hurts worse than it did during the weekend. I can’t walk fast, I can’t run, I can’t move swiftly about the city, so I make my peace with being late, with accepting my limitations. It’s not that bad.

There are days when my work life feels natural and there are days when it doesn’t. Today the corporate world feels fake. All those high-speed elevators and panoramic views on the city: buildings, buildings, buildings, buildings and a bridge across the river.

I am glad when I finally get home. The town is quant, it smells like rain, there are toddlers rushing to McDonald’s in their soccer T-shirts for a post-game snack. There is homeliness and familiarity that makes me feel strangely tender.

Maybe, that’s what my body is trying to tell me through all these injuries. I am slowly weaning off adrenaline. I am getting better, but I still need help. It’s the same message I heard in January. The same I heard a month ago. I need to find a way to stop doing adrenaline-fuelled work. I need to find my way around oxytocin.